How to take control of your sorrows

In human life, every person faces sadness. Not just once but every day, there is some kind of suffering, some kind of sadness.
But no matter how much ever you try, the sadness doesn't seem to end. Some people, get tired from it and suicide.
Some, just get used to this and go in to autopilot mode and exhaust away their entire precious human lives.
And in today's world, The selected few, turn inwards and perform meditation, yoga,sadhanas,etc.

All of us have about the same sized skull the same mind. We all have the same size of brains. We all have what it takes to live a life  the way we want. Then why is it that one person's brain and life is filled with ingeniousness and happiness but another one's is filled with stress and pain.
As compared to the previous yugas or the previous centuries, the present generation has the most sources of comfort and convenience. Even then, people of this generation are more unhappy and stressed than the previous generations.
All that we see in this world around us, was first created in our mind. All the wonderful things that we have created in this world and all the horrible things that we have created in this world have manifested from our human mind. All the actions about that which has been created, that which has been preserved and that which is going to be destroyed, are first manifested in our human mind. It is our mind who has given birth to ourselves, it is only this mind who keeps our precious human lives and it is our mind which destroys us.
 Hence, how we keep our minds is very necessary. If we want to create our world the way we want, we need to first create our mind the way we want.
Also, a lot of people today are found being sad about thing that were trying to gain it couldn't and they become depressed about it. Some people get sad about the love they couldn't get, some get depressed about not getting their desired car/phones, some get depressed about the fears of the future,etc when it wasn't even theirs in the first place.
Now, one thing we must understand is that there is no cure for something that is not ours and something that doesn't exist.
The person who expects and desires to gain something that is out of reach right now, drains himself mentally and physically. Such kind of desires, also called as  "mahatvakaanksha" in Hindi, are the first causes of depression.
If you as a human, suddenly becomes obsessed with the wish of flying in the air, you may make many attempts to fly. And with each attempt, you may make yourself more and more hurt and may even end up causing a fatal injury to yourself.
When, you become more and more obsessed about fulfilling your wish to fly which is impossible to fulfill in the first place, you are causing depression to yourself.
If you're causing depression to yourself, you are causing intense emotions and thoughts, but all in the wrong directions.
If you are making yourself mentally ill, if you are moving your thought process into something that is depressing, how can any one else control your sorrows.
This depression or self destructive behaviour is what brings an end to this precious human life of many people.
The god is within us. It is up to us on how we use him. How many of y'all know, that ever since we have been born, right from when we were just 1-2 seconds old, we have been continuously chanting, with every single inhalation and every single exhalation, a mantra, A very very divine mantra which has the power to give us health, extremely long life and moksha. The mantra which is like a kalpavriksha.
The line between sanity and insanity is very thin. But it is very thin. And people keep pushing it and making themselves more and more insane.
If someone wants to know the power of negative emotions, just try getting mad on something or someone 10 mins daily. Very soon, you will find yourself there. Clinically mad.
If some may have doubt on this, just keep pushing the line.
You push the line, get angry and you come back. Keep on repeating this every single day of your life.
Even though you may not have reached there yet, but still you are on the way.
Similarly, when we entertain negative thoughts, we are pushing the thin line between  between sanity and insanity i.e. positivity or creation and negativity or destruction.
Even a little negative thought creates pressure on this thin line and treads us towards destruction. Slowly, the little little negativity adds up and bring complete destruction of you and your life.
Some people think it is their right to throw tantrums, they think its their right to get angry with people, they think that is their right to be depressed so that they would get attention from somebody.
They keep playing this, but this way, negativity slowly engulfs them. They keep pushing the line every day and walk more and more on the path on negativity.
Keep walking on this path every day and very soon you will not be able to turn back and enter the path of positivity again.
Once a person sets himself in a state of compulsiveness to stay positive, nothing can stop you from positivity.
One must understand, that being depressed, sad or unhappy never gives returns, it only drains us away, physically, mentally, chemically & physiologically.
Being joyful and positive always pays.
Being depressed or unhappy is being half alive. And its a torcher on oneself, to be half alive. Only their physical  body and mentality is alive.
And Being Half alive  is always a suffering. Half alive people suffer everything. They suffer happiness from the fear that it may end, they suffer from sadness as to when will it end. They suffer from lack of sleep when gaining knowledge and they suffer from lack of knowledge when sleeping. They suffer due to lack of wealth when not wealthy enough and they suffer from the fear of  losing their money when they become affluent.
They suffer when they dont get kids and they suffer when they get kids as to what will happen to their future.
Even before death actually comes, they suffer from the fear of death.
Once they become fully alive, they become joyful and feel asceticsm within them all the time.
Fully alive people feel asceticism  all the time without any reason. They feel so much asceticism without any reason that it makes them feel embarrassing deep inside.
When someone is half alive, the pleasures of the senses, the pleasures of the body and the pleasures of the mind become very very important.

Mongoose, Lion, Sharks, Emperors and Desires - all these are bitter enemies of snakes, deers, fishes, kings and happiness respectively.

It is a basic human nature of being in a compulsive state of wanting something at any given moment. At that moment, all they are looking for is the fulfillment of that one top most desire that they may have.

This way, human life goes on from one compulsive state to another compulsive state.

Whatever a human is deprived of, is what he  considers as the highest form of pleasure.
If someone has not eaten for 2 days, food becomes God.
If someone else comes and shuts your nose and doesn't let you breathe even after 3-5 minutes, what would a person prefer between air and God. Without worrying about consequences of what God may do, he would still prefer air.
In other words, when someone is in a compulsive state of action, it brings exaggeration about a particular situation.
When someone is in a compulsive state, he stops seeing things the way they are and even small and unnecessary things become exaggerated.
Many people think their so-and-so sadness is due to so-and-so reason. But that is not true. Everything around us, happiness or sadness, has been created by us and us only. The root of all human sadness is attachment to things and how people want them to be.
If someone's beloved starts behaving the way he wants to, he will start feeling happy. If she behaves differently or does something as opposed to what he may have said, he gets sad.
Every sadness in life, no matter kind of sadness it may be, the only thing that is stopping you from getting freedom from it is your inability to accept it as it is.
For example, If someone is depressed over breaking up with their girlfriend/wife, there is only one thing that is stopping them to get rid of this sadness is them not changing it. With the power of penance there is nothing that remains impossible


The only thing that cannot be controlled by a human is the one which is not within us or something that is not happening within this human body.

Many may think, that it is the world around us that is being tough.

The only thing that determines your life is you. Not any body else. Your source of suffering, even though it may seem to exist because of someone else is actually existing because of you.

The whole world exists within ourselves.
Let's say someone is standing at someone distance away from you. You look at him and you wave your hand at him
 Now, you can see yourself waving at him.
The light is falling on him and reflecting back in to your lenses and inverted image in your retina.
So where do you see him now?
Within yourself.
Where do you hear him right now?
Within  yourself.
Where do you see the whole world?
Within yourself.

Now, if everything is happening within you, then, have you ever experienced anything out of yourself?
Everything that ever happened in your life, darkness and light happened within you, pain and pleasure happened within you, joy and misery happened within you.
Is there anything you have experienced outside of yourself? No.

What happens within you, who should determine about how so-and-so should happen? You or somebody else?
The events around you, may not be determined by you, but how you take  experiences of these things is determined by you; if you take charge of it.
If you let your life loose, just about anybody will determine it.
Unfortunately, many people today are found doing nothing about this precious human life.
Every night, approximately 7 billion people go to sleep. Out of them, more than 1 million don't wake up again.
More than a million of people didn't wake up this morning and a million more won't wake up tomorrow morning.
The time is ticking. One never knows when a your turn comes.
The problem is that many people today, are living with an idea, that they are immortal. They think, live and relax as if they are immortals.

It is difficult to decide the number of times a person becomes aware about his morality.
Because the person who gets aware of his morality even once a day, would he
waste even a single moment in crib, in fighting or do some rubbish with his life?
If you are mortal, then you would do nothing, except that which is absolutely necessary for you.
The value of life can only be understood if you understand it's shortness.

It is only is who has the control of our lives, not any body else.

Note - All the examples have been given purely for understanding the significance of detachment and significance of human life. The are not aimed at any person's personal view point whatsoever.

Jay Shri Rama